Slowing down
Today I got a card in the mail. No, it wasn’t a Christmas card (today is Christmas Eve). It was a card from myself. Yes, really.
A few weeks back I had the luxury of attending a five-day Total Balance retreat at Bryon Bay run by the lovely Kate James.
It was an amazing experience and one made possible by the Reflection Leave policy we have at work. This gives all staff an additional week a year to spend ‘reflecting’. (You can read more about our Reflection Leave Policy in this interview with SANE Australia CEO Jack Heath). This policy is truly a gift.
During the retreat we were tasked with writing a card to ourselves that Kate promised to send back to us a month down the track. We were to write to ourselves to remind us of the things we had hoped to take away from the retreat. I opened the card quite curious about what I had promised to myself.
At the top of the list was “take time to be quiet and slow”.
Wow, timing! The lead up to Christmas is traditionally super busy. Rush. Rush. Rush. Often we find ourselves stumbling across the finish line exhausted after a busy year. Usually. Surprisingly, that has not been my experience this week. I have noticed the email has slowed appreciably and as my major deadlines have passed I have been enjoying a peaceful week. I have been able to leave work on time and enjoy some quiet evening walks. On one of those walks I was appreciating the feeling of peace, the beautiful early evening sunshine and reflecting on the challenge of slowing down.
So it was a bit serendipitous that my card arrived today and hence this post!
I rush around a lot. ‘Slow’ is not something I do well. Nor is ‘quiet’. But I am working on it. I am excitable; I really thrive on activity, on creating things, on transforming stuff. I have been described as a ‘whirlwind’. But rushing around does take its toll and not just on me. It can be a challenge to those around me too! So I have been working on ‘slow’ and the retreat (and the arrival of that card) was a good way to refresh this commitment.
What do you do to calm yourself when you can feel the adrenalin is pumping way to hard? How do you do ‘slow’? Here are some of my favorite tips for slowing down. Some of these come from the retreat experience, but others have come from some very special workmates and mentors who have shared their wisdom with me over the years.
Five tips for slowing down
- Walk more slowly. Try it! This is surprisingly hard to do when you are pumped.
- Talk more slowly. Again, hard to do when the ideas are flowing and you have a million things running through your mind.
- Exercise. Find the time. It helps to relieve stress and burns some of that pent up adrenalin; it both stimulates and calms. Yoga and walks are my favorites.
- Meditate. This is one I struggle with. I know it takes practice and I will keep at it as the benefits to health are now well established.
- Get in touch with your creative side. Art as therapy. Without getting too technical, doing something creative, be it cooking, painting, writing, playing music etc., puts the right brain in charge and allows us to quiet that over-active left-brain. For me this is easier and as effective as meditation, but remember, its not about the end result here, just the ‘doing’.
Happy holidays,

